Kids need friends, but kids need their family more. Until they are about the age of 18, they are still very influenced by peers, coaches, music, teachers, preachers. Not all of these people will give the guidance of which you approve. Be involved, but don’t be bossy.

Step OUT of the Mad Zone!
Are you consequencing out of anger and impatience?
You’re going to be frustrated, expect it.  That’s a parent’s common emotion.   You want your children to do the right thing.  Frequently, they don’t.
Don’t give up on them, or yourself.  Step out of the moment, regain your composure, think it out.  Don’t shout.
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by Marisue Alsobrook
Introduction:  Teaching kids to set goals helps them see the progress they make and where they need to improve.  Self-evaluation also helps us be less sensitive to criticism; we are more able to see it as direction.  Just as using a road map to reach a destination, setting personal goals pushes us closer to [...]

by Marisue Alsobrook
“Thinking positive in a negative situation can be a powerful tool to stress and anger management, increasing our ability to achieve.  You might wonder how positive thinking eliminates violence, but I think losing hope is a trigger for serious behavior problems.  No one is asking you to be Miss/Mr. PolyAnna.  Real struggles bring [...]

by Marisue Alsobrook
Introduction: Over-Criticizing? Instead of criticizing, catch ‘em being good!  Just as praising an employee increases their production, praising children improves their behavior!  When parents come to me discussing a child’s misbehavior, I let them take a breath and then quickly insert “I know you’re frustrated, but stop for a moment.  I want you [...]